Thoughts on Community

I was once asked how important it was for me to live in a community. That got me to thinking about what the term means and how it tends to be used in this society. So here are some of the questions I was asked, and my answers to them.


What you see as a community?
For me, a community is a place where those present strive to provide a place for all to grow and live and learn and be. It is a place where there are only three sets of units: individuals, partners and everyone. And you must have a relationship with all of the above, including yourself, before you can claim membership in the community.

What are your hopes and fears?
I am hopeful that people can live and work together towards a community as defined above) without having to resort to fear-based, control-based enforcement of intelligence. I have no real fears for the community, since fear is a belief that we cannot deal with whatever happens. On a personal level, I fear efforts going to waste, that the works done will not be valued and appreciated.

What is your ideal balance between group involvement and private life?
My personal balance would be to go out and be with people when I am in the mood (about half the time, from my experience), to always have someone that I can talk with, either for fun or to figure something out, to be available to others who need to talk or share time. In general, I think that people need to define their own ratio of alone-time and group activity, and that ratio will vary as the person changes.

Have you participated in consensus process before?
Personally, I don't see any other way for people to get things done without one group using force to get another to do something it is opposed to. That control-based, force-based approach is what I consider the fundamental problem with the current social and political system, and what I am seeking an alternative to.

Open communication and self-awareness are important in community interaction and relationships. Are you willing to work on this?
I am always trying to learn how better to understand and express myself to those around me. As far as self-awareness, it is an absolute necessity for people to be able to think and choose for themselves. If you are not self-aware, then all of your actions and beliefs are dictated by others. If you do not share information about what you think and what is important to you, then others will not be able to interact with you and you will not be able to work with those around you.

How important is living in community to you?
Let me answer a different question first: Why do I want to live in a community? What is most important to me is to feel a sense of belonging, knowing that what I do is of benefit to those around me. Where I do this, and the scale that I work in is not important. I'd rather make one household happy that be useless to a town.
How important is it? Without purpose and shared benefit, my knowledge and skills are being wasted. I have left high-paying jobs where all I did was waste time and build things that never went anywhere. The company did not mind, but I did, because nothing was being accomplished. There was no growth, either for me or those around me.
You ask how important it is living in a community? I ask how else someone can live?

-coranth